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Meme About Children Refusing Hugs Goes Viral With Parental Debate
In July 2015, an article titled “I Don’t Own My Child’s Body” was published on CNN.com. In the piece, the author explains that she “will not override my own child’s currently strong instincts to back off from touching someone who she chooses not to touch.” She states that encouraging her child to make her own choices about who and when to show affection (like hugs or kisses) will protect her against predators, instill a strong sense of self, and encourage her to follow her instincts.
This year, the Facebook group A Mighty Girl posted a meme that stated “I am 5. My body is my body. Don’t force me to kiss or hug. I am learning about consent and your support on this will help me keep myself safe for the rest of my life.” The weighty message sparked debate among parents in the comments.
Bored Panda picked out some of the most popular statements from parents. Many agreed with setting boundaries so children could choose who they want to hug/kiss and when, but others are worried that it may appear rude or teach the child to not consider other’s feelings. Diana Oliveira said, “…grandma might need a hug too, even if he feels like doing something else. I don’t want an alienated and selfish kid.”
Other parents found a happy medium with the idea of either offering a “handshake, high five or hug.”
